Parenting with Purpose: Aligning Your Goals with God’s Will


According to a survey of more than 5000 parents in 16 countries by the investment bank HSBC, the main thing parents want for their children is happiness. Parents also want their children to become successful, be safe, embrace healthy lifestyles, be responsible, and have great careers.

Parenting with purpose. What do you want for your child or children?

Do you want what God wants? Are you aligning your goals with God’s will?

God wants children to come to Him (cf. Matthew 19:14). If God wants children to come to Him, then the main thing Christian parents should want for their children is a vibrant relationship with Jesus.

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Consider this verse: “Jesus Christ … gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good” Titus 2:13-14.

Note the phrase, “that are his very own.” Jesus wants children who are exclusively His – children who will give Him their entire allegiance and wholeheartedly live for Him. In other words, Jesus wants children to be utterly loyal to Him (cf. 1 Corinthians 7:35) – unattached to the things of the world (cf. 1 Corinthians 7:30-31).

Can children give themselves fully and unreservedly to Jesus? Yes and no. While God isn’t limited in empowering children to live for Him, it usually takes a lifetime for a person to learn how to do it.

So, how do you go about parenting with purpose? Here are ten considerations:

Champion Jesus.

Your primary parenting task is to help children be exclusively devoted to Jesus and fully committed citizens in His kingdom.

Don’t profess what you don’t possess.

Pursue a Jesus-filled and Jesus-honouring lifestyle. Root out hypocrisy. Turn your back on godless, self-indulgent routines.

Be filled with the Spirit.

You and your children can’t love or live for Jesus without the strength He provides. Ask God to fill you with His Spirit (cf. Ephesians 5:18).

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Rely totally on Jesus’ grace and mercy.

Being exclusively devoted to Jesus is an inside job that requires complete dependence on the kindness, compassion and unmerited favour of Christ.

Regularly and actively engage with the Bible and pray.

Bible engagement and prayer don’t happen ad hoc. Teach, model and encourage these spiritual disciplines (cf. Deuteronomy 6:6-7).

Be patient.

Seeing your children exclusively devoted to Jesus won’t transpire in a week, a month, or a year. It’s a process.

Stay focused on the end goal.

If there’s no struggle, there’s no progress. As your children grow in their devotion to Jesus, they may encounter setbacks.

Be intentional.

You have 936 weeks to do what you need to do! Don’t squander your time with your children. What are you doing this week to connect your children with Jesus and His Story?

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Recognize your powerlessness.

To do what God’s called you to do as a parent, embrace the reality that you are helpless and hopeless without Christ.

Don’t give up.

Jesus wants your children to live for Him more than you want them to. So, as you parent, fix your “eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith” Hebrews 12:2.

What suggestions do you have about parenting with purpose? Please share in the comments.

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Parenting with Purpose: Raising Children in Faith through Christian Parenting
In a recent survey, parents worldwide say they desire their children’s happiness, success, safety, and healthy lifestyles. But what about aligning parenting goals with God’s will? Christian parents are called to help their children nurture a vibrant relationship with Jesus. For children to be dedicated to Christ, parents must champion Jesus, live authentically, rely on His grace, engage in prayer and Bible study, exercise patience, be focused and intentional, recognize their powerlessness, and persevere. With only 936 weeks available, every moment counts in leading children toward an exclusive devotion to Jesus. (Generated with AI)

2 Responses

  1. My boys are 25 and 20 respectively. I realize only too late of such precious lessons. Am I already out of the parenting game?

    1. Once a parent, always a parent. We are never “out of the parenting game” though it is significantly different in each season of our children’s lives.

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