Raising children God’s way is unlike any other way …
There are numerous parenting strategies, philosophies, styles, techniques and methodologies. But the question for Christian parents shouldn’t be, should I use the RIE method, the three C’s technique or the authoritative parenting style? Secular ideas and beliefs won’t produce godly offspring (cf. Colossians 2:8). To raise God-loving children, we must raise them in God’s way.
So, how do we do this? Here are some insights about raising children God’s way:
You’re not in charge.
Resist the inclination to take the lead. It’s not about what you want for yourself and your children but what God wants. He’s in charge. He wants you to parent your children in line with His plans and purposes. You’re a parent to trumpet God’s majesty, not to toot your own horn.God wants you to parent your children in line with His plans and purposes. Click To Tweet
God expects you to raise children His way, not yours. If you want to impact your children’s lives, get rightly related to Jesus. Christian parenting is humbly submitting to God’s expectations, acting according to His will, and fulfilling His goals for your child’s physical, emotional, social, spiritual and intellectual development.
You represent God.
God appointed you to serve Him. You’re His ambassador in the home. You’re positioned as a parent to demonstrate to your children how God is all-mighty, all-powerful, all-sufficient, all-knowing, unchanging, always everywhere, infinitely faithful, right and perfect, compassionate and kind, forgiving and full of grace.As you parent your children, what you say and do should reflect the character of God. Click To Tweet
This means that as you parent your children, what you say and do should reflect the character of God. With the empowerment from the Holy Spirit, aim to be the visible representative of the invisible God. Work out what God’s worked in. Be for your children, the touch of Jesus’ hand, the melody of His voice, the smile on His face, and the warmth of His embrace.
You are powerless.
You may not think you do, but you desperately need God’s help. Recognize your inadequacies and deficiencies. If you’re going to be everything God’s designed you to be as a parent and do what He’s purposed, you must acknowledge and accept as true that you have no power to make your child believe in Jesus or live for Him.Jesus does His best work through you when you admit you’re powerless yet still answer His call. Click To Tweet
Knowing what you can and can’t do is indispensable to good parenting. After all, there’s not a single parent who can be who their family needs them to be. So, trust God to control the big and little things. And remind yourself that Jesus does His best work through you when you admit you’re powerless yet still answer His call.
You must take the long view.
Few things are more important in parenting than taking the long view when considering your child-rearing. Parenting is a process, not a series of events. Your child’s identity in Christ isn’t formed overnight. It unfolds over the course of weeks, months and years.Raising children God’s way is a lifelong task that continues every day. Click To Tweet
Raising children God’s way is a lifelong task. It’s laying down your life day in and day out for your family (cf. John 15:13). But thanks be to God, we don’t travel alone. Jesus, when welcomed, journeys with us. So, don’t sweat the small stuff; keep breathing and stay the course.
God’s way is the way of grace.
Your hands are tied when your parenting relies on your wisdom, character, or experience. But when your parenting depends on God’s grace, He is with you. The door to grace is confession and humble reliance on God. Don’t strive to parent in your natural strength. Don’t assume you have authority that you don’t have; it produces all kinds of parenting difficulties.To be a conduit of grace, you must receive grace. Click To Tweet
Tap into God’s presence, power and provision. Parenting was never meant to be a solitary affair. To be a conduit of grace, you must receive grace. For your capacity will only exceed your shortcomings when Jesus, the One who is “full of grace and truth” (John 1:14), directs your steps.
God uses your children to transform you.
Parenting isn’t all one-way traffic; it’s a two-way street. God hasn’t directed you only to bring up your children His way; He uses your children to direct His way in you. Good parenting includes what God is doing through us in our children and what He’s doing through our children in us.Open your ears to hear God’s voice through your children. Click To Tweet
So, when you’re parenting, open your ears to hear God’s voice through your children. Because God uses your children to refresh, redeem, realign, or restore you.
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